Happiness is truly an inside job.
What I’ve learned over the recent years is that happiness is something that we choose for ourselves. It is not in accordance to someone else’s rhythm, merely our own.
To some, finding happiness on their own is a quest. While for others, they depend on other people to make them happy. But have you ever stopped to think how amazing it would feel to start by making yourself happy, instead of waiting on others to make you happy?
I find it selfish when people are heavily dependent on someone else to make them happy as if it was their responsibility. Being happy on your own is already challenging enough what more having someone else put that accountability on you which just adds more stress to that person’s life.
The truth is, if you always expect others to make you happy, you’ll probably end up getting hurt or disappointed.
I sometimes sit down and ponder why people rely so much on others to make them happy and complain when their needs are not fulfilled by that person. Is it because they are avoiding the real work and effort needed to be put in to find joy in themselves? Or is it easier to be irresponsible and blame everyone but yourself when things go wrong?
Whatever it is, when you assign someone or a situation that much power over your life, you can easily fall and crumble when things go south. You can’t control other people, you can only control your own reactions to them.
If you ever find yourself feeling angry or hung up on unpleasant circumstances, take a few steps back to reflect on yourself and why you’re feeling a certain way. Be honest, recognise your feelings and own up to them.
Then, move forward by taking the steps needed to improve the situation in order to make yourself feel better.
Here are some of the ways you can be happy;
- Practise acceptance and gratitude (lots of it!)
- Complain less
- Train your brain to look for the good in your life
- Embrace change and alone time
- Do not empower other people to have power over you.
- Replace thoughts that encourage self-pity
- Make peace with your past
- Be self-sufficient
- Invest in yourself
- Be in love with your future. She awaits you ❤️
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